Many mothers look at 2020 and see negatives: work struggles, school struggles, financial struggles, schedule struggles, socialization struggles. The list for every family is different and could go on and on.
As unbelievable as it may seem, struggles can actually be twisted into something to be thankful for. It isn’t always easy to do when you’re a mentally, physically, and emotionally drained mother. However, below are three examples of how to find gratitude during this difficult pandemic.
Quality Time Together
Three times a day - morning, noon, and at night - write down three reasons why the extra quality time with your family is important. Don’t focus on your lack of patience or lack of creative craft ideas – focus on the why. Why has this time together been important and why will it be special in the long run? Stopping to think about these reasons, numerous times a day, trains your brain to search for the positive.
During this pandemic, it is easy for parents to feel angry towards their career and financial situation. To shift away from this pain, take time to focus on your priorities and values. If you aren't clear on what those are, think about what you would do with a special 24-hour day.
During this day, you can do anything your heart desires. Money isn't an issue. Physics aren't an issue - yes, you can teleport wherever you want to go and as often as you want to move about. You can even teleport people to you! So, what made your 24 hours activity list? Was it filled with friends and family? Travel or staying at home? Gardening or hiking about? What you decide to include in that fabulously fictitious day will give you clues as to what you deem important.
The Power of Play
Education and structure are important for children, but this pandemic has proven to parents and educators just how important play really is. Play is natural – infants, toddlers, and children find unique ways to stay active through the art of play. In reality, especially during 2020, that is what it is: art.
As many parents stressed over routine and structure, they also realized how important it is mentally to let your child just be a child. On top of that, parents prioritized their own view of play – or, for adults, self-care may be a better phrase. Whatever your form of play is, taking time for it is just as important for your little one as it is for Mama.
Jennifer Aline is a coffee addict, mama of twins, and a passionate freelance writer and author. She writes for Moms.com on a regular basis and has had articles in publications such as the NY Daily News, NY Post, and In Good Health Newspaper. Aline received her Bachelor’s Degree in Child and Family Studies from Keuka College and worked in the Human Services field before her two little girls entered her life. Aline now focuses primarily on writing, teaching aerial arts classes in the evenings, and caring for her twin daughters – all while continuously chugging coffee, of course.
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