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  • Present in Pregnancy: The 3rd Time's the Charm!
  • Meghan Covington
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Present in Pregnancy: The 3rd Time's the Charm!

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(The below article is reprinted with permission from Meghan Covington, owner of of Mind, Body Fitness. You can find the original article here.)

Like with anything else, pregnancy gets easier the more you do it! Here I am 37 weeks pregnant with my 3rd girl, and I have finally managed to have (dare I say) an enjoyable pregnancy. And even though my body stayed relatively fit and healthy with the last 2, I think I have struck a balance with this one that has allowed me to enjoy the ride.  I chalk it up to staying present and mindful along the way.

With the first it was all about my body and the fears associated with the insane changes taking place. I was stressed because my body was no longer familiar to me, and I could not imagine it going back to a pre-pregnancy state. In fear of losing my precious figure I ended up over-exercising. Keep in mind, I am a prenatal certified trainer/yoga instructor. I was aware of the safe ways to exercise, but somehow thought I would be immune to the strain that overexercise could have on a pregnant body. Just because I could do it, didn’t mean I should do it. I chose exercises that were too intense for my core in particular, and I ended up with a diastasis (abdominal separation) of grand proportions. My weight gain was minimal and healthy, but the mental stress I put myself through to maintain that weight was so unnecessary. After all was said and done, my body did return to my pre-pregnancy state. So was it worth all the stress I put myself through?

The second time around, I had learned to take it down a notch when it came to exercise, but mentally and emotionally I was suffering from the fears surrounding life with two small children. I could not wrap my head around how I would be able to care for 2 kids, and I filled myself with doubt, apprehension, and fear. I struggled with the unknown - How would everyone’s needs be met? How could I ever love another child as much as my first?! How could I survive a day alone with two small children (oh, and run a small business at the same time)?? I was a big ball of anxiety throughout that pregnancy, so again, even though I was healthy, I was unable to enjoy it.  And surprise! Once baby came along I adjusted to life with two.  It was not easy per say, but we survived and thrived. All the time I spent battling myself inside my own mind didn't help me in any way. 

Third time’s the charm right?

This time around, I finally feel present in pregnancy. I am not stuck in my head. Most importantly, I TRUST my body, my capabilities as a mother, and the power I hold as a woman. I am not worried about my weight gain because I trust the process. I am not concerned about how life will be with another baby in the house because I know it just means there will be one more being to love and adore. Now that I am not caught up in a thousand and one fears, I appreciate the AWEsomeness of creating a human being without even thinking about it. I appreciate the intensity of motherhood and all the highs and lows it provides. And I appreciate the natural strength of all women who endure pregnancy and childbirth. It's not easy, but it is beautiful, empowering, and life changing.  I feel so blessed to have another opportunity to do it again, and this time mindfully. And any time I find myself experiencing self-doubt or anxiety, I pause. I take some deep breathes. I place both hands on my belly, and I enjoy movements of my daughter inside. This brings me back to the peace of the moment.

  • Meghan Covington
  • For MomMommee Tales

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